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What can I say this book totally justifies its title 'How To Win Friends and Influence People'. I mean this book is around 300 pages, 4 parts and 30 chapters and I can guarantee you, you can learn something important from each chapters. This book is for those who don't know what to and when to talk to people, including me. Anyways I can totally say that this book when it was published was way ahead of its time, this book is totally suitable for this generation and also works for next generation as well because this world is very much dominated by person who know how to talk to people. And the writing style omg, it was just amazing, the way Dale Carnegie write some aspects was just flawless, it was like he himself narrating all the stories and his experience. There is nothing negative in this book if I pinpoint, only one negative point I can think of is some middle chapters were rushed quickly and not elaborated efficiently but that doesn't bother anyone. So my final words would be read it just read it even if you are extrovert, ambivert or introvert give this book a try and you will be surprised that how much you need this book.

I remember reading this book, or better said my feelings while and about reading this book, maybe 10 years ago. I thought - what a hype, must be something worthy... Well, I was disappointed to no measure. My fresh out of Uni self could not fathom why people would be bad to each other and why these manipulative actions that Mr. Dale Carnegie describes in this book, are something that people actually find useful.Fast forward to present - I gave it another go, after repeated recommendations from people I respect and even admire. The thing is - one must not take these teachings and follow them to a T. Rather, if you, like myself, are confronted repeatedly with aggressive, unwilling individuals, you can find quite a few gems in this book that can be useful. I find though that you have to be able to seamlessly integrate the Principles in this book into your normal behavior to be successful in your pursuits and still be true to yourself... Many of the principles are common sense, to most of us. There are people though, people I know, who misuse and abuse some of these people pleasing technics, and that is very false and repelling to me - makes me want to erase their number from my contacts and never see or hear from them again. ...and go take a hot shower...When confronted with life situations where a little more diplomacy or another creative approach goes a long way - this book is fantastic, but only then. Do not make the book and ALL the principles in it a way of life - or you will be miserable in your new people pleaser role.