The Relationship Report - The Honeymoon that lasts forever

The Couple Who Grow Together, Stay Together

Entrepreneurs and artists are more susceptible to shaky relationships than any other group. It’s not a matter of social class, wealth or even success. Busy people grow fast, they often leave their partner behind, and that is all to often called the cost of success. The key to preventing this issue is to know that the couple who grow together, stay together.
We know that falling in love is easy, we can do it in a flick of as switch when the right person comes along. We know that getting into a relationship is easy once we fall in love, it’s almost an automatic next step. We know that making babies is easy, well at least the getting pregnant part. But people change, emotions change, expectations change and with those changes, relationships can struggle to survive.
The couple who grow together - stay together.
We know of one man who has been married nine times. When we asked him why he said with pride, “my grandfather was married for fifty years but that was in 1910. The pace of life is at least ten times that now, so, I figure his fifty year marriage grew only the equivalent of five years in modern terms. So, I’m not that far behind him.”
This was all said with a wry smile, but there is an element of truth in it. The purpose of a relationship is to grow us, but some people don’t want to grow. They prefer to repeat old patterns rather than adapt and grow with their partner. This is where the ground becomes shaky and trust gets broken.
When a couple doesn’t grow together, and by growth I mean learn to unlearn some old habits fast, a great relationship can turn bad in just weeks. You’ll know the quarrels, negativity, disharmony and lost libido and this can seriously impact our work.
Corporate training usually avoids the subject of relationships but my estimate is that 50% of a person’s productivity at work is impacted by the health of their relationship at home.
The key here is to recognise the symptoms before they become problems. The benefits of a good home life and the costs of a bad one are telegraphed long before troubles turn to disasters. It’s therefore a primary imperative that we do the right thing before we dig ourselves into a hole and can’t get out.
It’s better to act proactively in relationship. Repairing a damaged relationship is a brave and expensive journey which, with hindsight, could have been avoided.
We’ve gathered the following list of early warning signs that reveal when a couple is not growing together - adapting to change.

Communication breakdown
Anger, frustration and resentment
Slipped into maintenance routine
Sexual boredom and lowered sexual libido
Tiredness and no real affection
Sporadic romance only on holidays and special events.
Health problems including depression and sadness
Continual complaints, disappointment and criticism
Partner rarely available for one on one time.

80% of all clients who had experienced significant relationship challenges confirmed that, “They knew the relationship was struggling long before it came to a disaster but didn’t know what to do about it.” This report aims to got head to head with that astonishing response and provide the “what to do.”
We do need to be proactive. Even if your relationship is over, there is no reason to feed the lawyers or become enemies, treating each other with respect and appreciation is a rock solid standard whether you’re in or out of the relationship.
Why do entrepreneurs and independent busy individuals struggle in relationship? Our research shows the following issues are the most common causes of blocked growth.